When you think about success in fitness—or in life—what comes to mind? Six-pack abs? A marathon medal? Finally fitting into those jeans tucked away in your closet? Or maybe it’s the elusive dream of "having it all together." Whatever your answer, take a moment to really sit with it. Whose version of success are you chasing? And more importantly, does it even feel like yours?
Too often, we measure success by someone else’s yardstick: what we see on Instagram, what our friends are doing, or what society says we should aim for. But here’s the truth: Success is personal. Progress isn’t a one-size-fits-all journey. It’s unique, messy, and—if you’re doing it right—deeply rooted in your own values.
Stop Chasing Someone Else’s Goals
Think back to the last goal you set for yourself. Was it something you genuinely wanted, or was it something you felt you should want? It’s easy to get caught in the trap of "shoulds":
"I should want to lose weight."
"I should work out five days a week."
"I should look like [insert influencer here]."
The problem with “should” goals is that they rarely stick. They’re fueled by external pressures, not internal motivation. When the going gets tough (and it always does), it’s hard to stay committed to something that doesn’t feel authentic.
Instead, ask yourself: What do I want? What feels meaningful to me? Maybe it’s about feeling stronger, having more energy to play with your kids, or finding a stress outlet that actually works. When your goals are rooted in your personal values, they become infinitely more achievable—and satisfying.
Redefine Progress on Your Terms
Progress doesn’t always look like a smaller number on the scale or a bigger one on the barbell. Sometimes it’s more subtle:
Choosing to rest when your body needs it, instead of pushing through exhaustion.
Saying “no” to commitments that drain you, so you have time for what matters.
Feeling less winded climbing the stairs or carrying groceries.
Being able to sit with yourself and feel proud of how far you’ve come, even if the world doesn’t notice.
These moments might not be Instagram-worthy, but they’re no less valid. Progress is about moving closer to the life you want to live—not checking off arbitrary milestones. When you redefine what success looks like, you create space to celebrate wins that align with your priorities.
Get Real About Your Why
Every goal needs a "why." Not just a vague idea, but a clear, honest reason that keeps you grounded. Your "why" is your anchor when motivation wavers (because it always does).
For example:
"I want to feel strong and capable because I’ve spent too many years doubting myself."
"I want more energy because I’m tired of feeling exhausted by the end of the day."
"I want to model healthy habits for my kids because I want them to grow up with a positive relationship with their bodies."
Dig deep. Ask yourself why your goals matter. Keep asking until you get to the core of it. That’s the "why" you hold onto when the journey feels tough.
Focus on the Process, Not Just the Outcome
It’s tempting to fixate on the finish line: the weight lost, the race completed, the goal achieved. But the truth is, the journey matters just as much (if not more) than the destination.
Consider this: If you’re miserable the entire way to achieving a goal, was it really worth it? Success isn’t about suffering your way to the end. It’s about finding ways to enjoy the process, even when it’s challenging.
If you hate running, don’t force yourself to do it. Find an activity you love.
If meal prepping feels overwhelming, start with one or two simple recipes.
If a rigid schedule doesn’t work for you, build flexibility into your routine.
The journey should feel like an investment in your well-being, not a punishment.
Give Yourself Permission to Evolve
Here’s the thing about goals: They’re not set in stone. As you grow, your definition of success might change—and that’s okay. In fact, it’s a good thing.
Maybe you started with a goal to lose weight, but along the way, you realized you care more about how strong you feel. Or perhaps you thought you wanted to hit a certain PR in the gym, but now you’re more focused on maintaining balance in your life.
Give yourself the freedom to adapt. Progress isn’t linear, and neither are you.
Success isn’t about fitting into someone else’s mold. It’s about defining your own path and walking it with purpose. It’s about aligning your goals with your values, embracing the messy middle, and celebrating the little wins along the way.
So, take a moment today to reflect: What does progress look like for you? Not for your neighbor, your best friend, or your favorite influencer. For you. When you answer that question honestly, you’ll find that success feels a whole lot closer—and a lot more meaningful.